"As the stalkers were hung by the chimney with care...."

Topless Club Stalkers who stalk dancers and DJs Part I

The Christmas season brings out the best and the worst in people.

1) The pressure of being alone during the holidays can cause your best regulars to become more demanding of your time, just freak out in general, or drop off a nest egg.

2)The pressure of spending another year with someone you didn't want to spend last year with can make people crazy or more generous.

3) There are people who are just plain fucking FREAKS.

Being able to figure out which is which is not an easy task. You don't want to scare off your money but you can't put yourself at risk for any reason. Every situation is different. Dancers are not the only people in our field that can be in danger. DJs are also at risk by stalkers. Maybe not after him but he poses an impasse. More bluntly the guy feels cock-blocked. A dancer is sitting with a guy, the DJ has a question (music selection, rotation change, secret code signal to get the girl away from a creep with no money. You know what I mean) the dancer gets up, the guy gets pissed. I've had numerous confrontations for reasons as lame as these. I've been lucky. I either talked them back to reality, had security handle it, or kicked their ass. The big problem is, the DJ has no idea who this guy is, what he wants, and it never fails they come from behind.

Dr. Rock, MC extraordinaire at The Clubhouse in Dallas, was shot in the parking lot of Club Legacy by a patron when he worked there. I'm glad to say he has completely recovered physically. I've never spoken to him about it but I hate getting shot. Dr. Rock was shot with a handgun at close range. I've lost a couple of coats and vests to shotguns and everything else has been misses.

Good judgment is your most valuable weapon, but it too is limited. Reasonable methods do not work on unreasonable people. The guy who thinks, or is, the ex-boyfriend of a dancer thinks anyone she goes out with, or is seen with, is the cause of their break-up. Even if he beats her every morning to start the day.

My experience with this is....This guy went out with this dancer a total of 4 times. She quit calling or speaking to him. Two weeks later we went out. ONCE. He publicly and openly threatened to kill me (he'd already been in jail for assault more than once, one time biting a chunk of his girlfriend's cheek and lip off). Real nice guy. I'd never seen him that I knew. By the time I ran into him, he'd done his homework on me. He knew what town I lived in (35 miles away), where I went after work, my ex-girlfriends, what I drove, and that I had a concealed weapons permit and carried. He went to the club he knew I hung out in if I got off early and waited for me. I got there , checked my gun with the manager (who I'd worked with before), and headed to the DJ booth to see my DJ who was there when I was the club's MC. I could feel his eyes following me and when I was in the booth he was easy to spot. Then I recognized him from being at the club the past week. After being there awhile, I had to take a leak. I walked the long way around and of course, the restrooms were on the other side of him. He cut through the tables to put himself in position to throw me a shoulder in the crowd. I said "Excuse me" and continued. On my way out, I mentioned the situation to the Security Manager and had the Assistant Manager get my things from the safe. I headed to my car with security watching me. I got in the car and security went back inside. Before I got out of the parking lot , this moron had cut me off , standing in front of my car, wanting to talk to me . The next day the police department called the club and wanted me to stop in and talk to them about it. He had gone back inside the club , called the police, and said I pulled my gun on him. He didn't know I had gone to the police and that there were witnesses to everything that happened. He was trying to get it so he knew I was unarmed. He was on probation and has since gone back to jail. All this over ONE date.

You have to remember the obsessed will find out more about you than your family knows. There's an apartment complex I discourage anyone I know from renting from. The manager starts out very helpful. Then he wants a picture (only the female residents). Then you see him in the tree line in the parking lot at 3,4,5 am. He frequents the clubs. He followed me around for two weeks trying to figure out my schedule between the club, my house, and my girlfriend's apartment. He was doing all of this just to find out when she would be at the apartment alone.

If someone gives you a creepy feeling listen to it. Don't give out personal information to anyone, such as your home phone, address, real name, or cell phone unless that's all you use it for....

TO BE CONTINUED......

Until next time.
Krazy Ted