from the DJ Booth
is one of the most misunderstood, negative stereotyped facets in the
entertainment industry. Anyone who has no experience with clubs and dancers
already has his own opinion and a mental "visual" of what he thinks
on. My estimate is that 99% of them are dead wrong. These people have made
up their minds using TV, shitty movies, and manifestations about everyone
and everything we do.
really don't care what anyone thinks or says about me. When they attack my
club, my girls, and/or my industry , then I have a problem with them. It
would be a complete waste of time to try to change their preconceived
notions. So what I suggest to do (seeing they seem to talk the loudest ) is
to shut them up by proving them wrong.
some DO's and DON'T's, starting with the DON'T's:
go out looking like a hooker . Unless you are a hooker and then make
sure no one associates you with the club. There's enough trouble with
legalities that no one needs even a remote inkling that prostitution has
anything to do with our industry.
means DON'T wear your heals out unless you're going to a formal ball or
someone else will be wearing them too. DON'T draw adverse attention to
yourselves in public. It makes it hard for your regulars to explain how he
knows you when his wife asks "Who's that?'.
negativity... Let's move on to the positive side!!!!
you give something back to the community (even if it's anonymously)
people will know where it came from. Although it may not be appropriate to
donate to the Boys and Girls Club from a strip bar, you can use a different
name ie: the owners corporate name (have permission), a talent agency (make
one up ) or numerous other routes. People will figure out who's helping.
club has an unbelievable report with our local police department. This is
imperative to keeping the noisemakers quiet. It seems every time some zealot
goes on a "clean up our city" tangent, the first place they go is
cops. I am notorious for being in charge of police harassment. The police
come in, I harass them. I have several officers ( over 20 ) that I consider
GOOD friends. Their home and cell phone numbers are programmed into my cell
phone, they come to after-hours parties off duty, they come to club parties,
I know their families, and I've even been to some of their houses. ( They've
all been to my house at one time or another and so have a bunch of cops I
don't know, but I don't want to talk about that right now) I'm no angel.
They know that, but we work the same crappy hours, laugh at my donut jokes,
and we get along. I respect them and they don't want to talk about me. It
works. We have a low crime incident rate because our neighborhood is family.
We are our own Neighborhood Watch From Hell. The police appreciate that our
staff will let them know if there's something going on we can't or shouldn't
handle. ( In my one year at Sapphires, I have never been aware of a single
911 call from the club) Having the police on your side and on your guest
list can "shoot" down a screamer before he gets started.
in the adult entertainment business limits SOME of the immediate
public charities but there is a vast untapped sector out there. If you have
any dancers , staff members, or anyone who is truly an entertainer, get them
involved in the community theatre. This entertainment genre cross-over
opens an entire new social chain, that for the most part, has no idea we
exist. ( Get them before they're corrupted) I've been approached about doing
"Rocky Horror Picture Show" on stage at a historic, newly renovated
in our metro area. Talk about reaching people with enough pull to stop a
zoning problem. This is it. (Whether or not they'll be able to relate to me
remains to be seen, between rock musician, strip club DJ, and nude photo
shoots, I guess I'll try to blend). I will approach musicians I've worked
with for the rock band part of the pit orchestra, as well as, get some of
girls involved in the production. Even though we won't be representing our
club, the public will still know.
is another way to sway public opinion. I was the first adult in
the state of Iowa paired with adolescents in the Compeer program through our
county mental health center. ( No it was NOT punitive community service
either) The kids parents I worked with loved the 'bad boy' image because
their kids would talk to me when they wouldn't anyone else. It was truly
rewarding and I may do it again. Habitat for Humanity is another great
program. If you feel your life is shit, I suggest helping out at a shelter.
You will appreciate everything and everyone you have and come out feeling
great because you helped. In all these settings you don't have to advertise
because people will know what you do and it won't matter because you're
helping. They get to know you and it will change the way they think and they
will stand up for our industry the next time someone spouts off ( of course
there's the ones who are not going to change but we're not after them
taste, class, community service and good P.R. can change peoples
opinions towards clubs and entertainers. There are too many negative aspects
out there so if we keep our own little corner of the world looking legit,
may head off that one fight to close another club that could cost us our